tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34759951.post7669952766031050114..comments2023-10-23T08:31:00.528-07:00Comments on AcadeMama: Mean Girls & Boys; Or, 3rd Grade Survival SkillsAcadeMamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15510282285225998011noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34759951.post-37126622810031424122008-02-25T05:59:00.000-08:002008-02-25T05:59:00.000-08:00I definitely agree that something should be done t...I definitely agree that something should be done to make her feel a little more empowered. Bullying is terrible and the fact that the student teacher did nothing is very troubling. I would absolutely talk to the primary teacher, who probably knows nothing of this and will be happy to speak with the student teacher about how to handle these situations. After all, that's the point of student teaching -- to learn how to handle a classroom. And I love M's suggestion of language for H should something similar happen again. While I certainly think teachers should be watching for this sort of thing and advocating for children, I think it's even more empowering when they can stand up for themselves. Maybe do a little role-playing and help her rehearse how she will respond to any future bullying?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02549607902659753397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34759951.post-1086157542000744902008-02-24T12:30:00.000-08:002008-02-24T12:30:00.000-08:00So I haven't had to deal with anything remotely li...So I haven't had to deal with anything remotely like this yet as Wild Man is only 16 months old. But as you know, I did speak up about The Biter that was in his and E's class--and as an aside, I've recently found that that The Biter is in fact the one who bit Wild Man on the face a few weeks ago and that The Biter has bitten several other children in her current classroom. This is the same classroom that Wild Man and E will be moving up to in about a month or so. But back to H, given that the teacher in question was a student teacher, I would totally call and talk to H's primary teacher. Tell the primary teacher that you want to turn it into a learning experience for the student teacher. I think the student teacher may not be aware how to respond in this type of situation. <BR/><BR/>Here's another suggestion: why not tell H to say "I'm not a loser, and it hurts my feelings that you said that. Friends (I am assuming she and the boy are friends) don't say things like to each other."Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18353657968740060474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34759951.post-75406182574760129932008-02-24T12:28:00.000-08:002008-02-24T12:28:00.000-08:00Oh, poor H. I just want to give her a hug! I can ...Oh, poor H. I just want to give her a hug! <BR/><BR/>I can understand your dilemma. The student teacher should have done something, at least urging McDooDoo Head to apologize to H. <BR/><BR/>If you feel comfortable enough with the parents and think they'll react to the problem with some compassion, you might go ahead and talk with them. Hopefully, they'll be receptive. <BR/><BR/>I was that girl, too, after I magically developed overnight in 5th grade. Boys started saying stuff about me and to me. I quickly learned to stand up for myself because, I realized if I didn't, no one else would. Also, my parents had done a remarkable job helping to pull my out of my shell 'round 'bout this time and I knew that they would want me to stick up for myself. Hmm . . . maybe there's a post here . . . <BR/><BR/>Anyway, what I am getting at is that I think (based solely on my virtual knowledge of you and your parenting) that H will learn how not to be that girl. <BR/><BR/>Good luck!mgmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10493186396298018845noreply@blogger.com