Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Breaking Up With My Doctor (sorta)

Upon further reflection and with the support of my friend, Sarah, I've decided my OB and I need a Break. Unless complications arise, I'm skipping my appointment next Wednesday. Indeed, I feel no reason to go back to his office until I am either a) in labor (in which case, I'll just meet him at the hospital and hope they call someone else) or b) past my due date.

As my friend confirmed, there's really no need for the checking of the cervix exams. I have no complications, I have no tolerance for the pain it cause me, and unless my water has broken and I'm contracting regularly, it really doesn't matter how much I've dilated, because I'm not in fucking labor!

In other words doc, "don't call me, I'll call you!"

5 comments:

LD said...

Amen to that-- no one told me that them checking for dilation would hurt so much

AcadeMama said...

This sounds bad, but I'm glad to hear someone else say that it hurts, because it confirms what an ass my dr. is. It turns out that, as he was checking my cervix and I was writhing in visible pain, he gave Hubby a look of "It really doesn't hurt..she's just being dramatic." !!!! The OB that delivered my oldest daughter told me that my cervix is tilted which might make exams more painful...too bad she's not here to explain this to my current doctor!

M said...

I second not having your cervix checked. It serves almost no purpose unless you are actually in labor. I mean, you could have been dilated to 2 centimeters for months now. I never let my doctor check my cervix when I was carrying Wild Man and I don't plan to let my midwife check me this go round.

Jennie said...

I agree that it hurts! My son was a preemie, so I was only checked once (just before getting the okay for an epidural) and it was the most painful part of the entire birthing process for me. And BTW I loved my doctor, but that made it no less painful.

AcadeMama said...

Well, as it turns out, the photographer who just came to do my maternity photo shoot had the same OB as I do, and she ended up having to "break up" with him too. He delivered her first child two weeks early, claiming that it was medically necessary, yet the baby only weighed 5 lbs. 5 oz. at birth. There were NO complications to indicate an induction was needed. She also mentioned that at least 5 other women she knows have had problems with him similar to those I described. I didn't have much doubt about my decision before today, but now I certainly have NO doubt that I'm doing the right thing.